I have a web cam and so does my mom who lives in another state. We used to use AIM Triton (Instant Messaging) to be able to talk and see one another but their site has changed and don't work very well. Does anyone know of another site that we can use for free to web cam eachother?

Yes, as it's said above, you should download msn or you also have yahoo messenger that will allow you to do so.

Additional option: skype, with this one you can also make phone calls with your pc to a normal phone paying very cheap prices (from pc to pc is free just like msn and yahoo messenger, and of course you can use your cam for free).

good luck

just download msn, its free and supports both webcam but also skype type phone calls so you can call and see her for free.