I just once would like to have the big dinner at my house. First off, every year there is a big thing about who's place we should go to. My parents ask and his ask. His mom gets very angry if we go to my moms and expects everything on her terms. In another words if she has it early then we should go to her house and eat and then to my parents after or the other way around to suit her plans.This year I just said the heck with it, we are staying home. So she went as far as to really bad mouth me to my son's girlfriend, whom he lives with and has a child with. She texted me calling me all kinds of really bad names like two faced who** and bit** and said I would never see my one and only grandchild again. I tried to be a decent person and texted her back and told her I thought she was an excellent mommy to my grandson and that I loved my grandson very much. Secondly she has had the dinner every year for the past 22 years. Shouldn't someone else get a turn? We have a fairly big family.

Most people would see the offer you've made as practical and generous....she sounds like a total pain in the whatnot!