My friend is preggo with boy#2 (boy#1 is only a year old.) She will need many baby items again, since baby #1 is still using them. I was asked by a friend of this friend to co-host a shower for her and I said yes, that I would be happy to throw a small, casual party at my home and maybe have people bring their favorite book for the baby instead of gifts. (Which I think is greedy and tacky to ask for for shower #2)

When I talked to my friend whom the shower is for, she said people in the family didn't have any problem with gifts for 2nd showers and she needed lots of stuff. (nevermind that they live in a 3 million dollar home and make a lot of money) She also said that the narrowed down list was 50 people!

So, now we're going to need to have the shower in a restrauant and it will be $1000 total, mininum. I really like this friend (and - very important - she is the wife of my husbands bosses son - someday he will take over the business...so there's some poltics involved as well.)

You mentioned that you told the person who asked you to "co-host" the second shower, that you would be happy to throw a small casual party, at your home, sounds like what you can afford, isn't being considered, so I'm afraid IF it were me, I would have to explain to your friend, that you did not "sign on" for something that expensive and that you must take back an offer that you were pressured into, in the first place.